FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real
- The fear of failure
- The fear of rejection
- The fear of public speaking and presentations
- The fear of humiliation
- The fear of saying no or yes
- The fear of verbal confrontation
- The fear of what others will think of you
- The fear of speaking up and expressing your feelings
- The fear of asking for something you want
- The fear of your own success!
How to Be Fearless So You Can Live Life Without Limits and Actualize More of Your Potential
Most of our fears are like shadows and the thing about a shadow is that as soon as you shine a light on shadow, the shadow disappears! So how can you begin to develop fearlessness in your life…
- SELF-HONESTY – Be brutally honest with yourself and identify what you are scared of. Sometimes, we can mask our fears by making excuses and telling our selves stories that sound comfortable rather that admitting our fears. The starting point of any real and lasting transformation is self-honesty, remember you can try to fool and lie to the world but you can’t really lie to yourself, so admit your fears at least to yourself.
- ACTION ACTION ACTION – Once you have identified your fears the next step is to dive in and take some action in the direction of your fears. Sometimes the thing that you are most scared of doing is the thing that you must do first! When I speak about fearlessness, it does not mean the absence of fear, it means feeling fear and taking action despite experiencing fear. The amazing thing is that as soon as your mind and body is engaged in action, the fear reduces, there is no room for analysis paralysis, sitting on the fence on the contrary is where fear can take a hold of you.
- DAILY MEETING WITH FEAR - Daily meetings with your dear friend fear are highly recommended. What I mean by this is that everyday, you should do something that is outside of your comfort zone, something that is a little bit scary. This is about building up your fear resiliency so you get comfortable with being uncomfortable. I don’t mean you have to do some death defying stunt everyday but little acts, such as starting a conversation with someone you have never spoken to before or making a phone call you have been putting off because of fear can do wonders for your self-esteem and moving you into a state of fearless action.
- WORST CASE SCENARIO – Keep your fears in perspective and come to terms with the worst case scenario, usually when you confront your fear and it doesn’t quite go according to plan, what is the worst that can happen? Usually, the worst case scenario will not mean death, you will still be alive. If we learn to accept our mortality and accept the fact that one day our life will come to an end then it doesn’t make sense to live in fear! The Samurai warrior’s of old were taught to embrace life by keeping death in mind at all times. A strong and wise philosophical outlook on life can truly make us fearless unfortunately our schools don’t teach us to grow up as fearless philosophers but that is topic for another article!
I think this quote really sums up the power of facing our fears. Fearlessness doesn’t mean not feeling fear, we are not robots of course we feel fear, of course we do, but fearlessness means doing the damn thing anyway, despite the fear and once we do then we open our lives up to limitless possibilities and our absolutely limitless potential. What fear are you committed to facing head on?
Wishing you a fearless and successful year ahead.
Something that I teach leaders to do on my Leadership Adventure Programme is to go deep within themselves and tackle fear, through meditation and breathing techniques that can help us to get control of our physiology as well as teaching the mindset of fearlessness allowing leaders to communicate and act from an authentic and rooted place.